{"id":21175,"date":"2025-01-17T00:06:26","date_gmt":"2025-01-16T21:06:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sanalulke.org\/?p=21175"},"modified":"2025-03-04T05:06:51","modified_gmt":"2025-03-04T02:06:51","slug":"aile-ici-tartisma-ve-cozum-yontemleri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/aile-ici-tartisma-ve-cozum-yontemleri\/","title":{"rendered":"Aile \u0130\u00e7i Tart\u0131\u015fma Ve \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm Y\u00f6ntemleri"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Modernitenin sald\u0131r\u0131s\u0131na maruz kalan en \u00f6nemli iki mevzu bireylerde y\u00fcrek, toplumlarda ailedir. \u0130nsan i\u00e7in y\u00fcrek ne ise toplum i\u00e7in de aile odur. Bu sld\u0131raya kar\u015f\u0131 her ferde kendi y\u00fcre\u011fini savunmak, her topluma da aile kurumunu savunmak d\u00fc\u015fmektedir.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>E\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki tart\u0131\u015fmada, her hangi bir taraf\u0131n hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131mas\u0131ndan iki taraf\u0131nda uzla\u015fmas\u0131 daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan daha verilmlidir. E\u015flerden biri tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 kendisinin kazanmas\u0131n\u0131n e\u015finin kaybetmesi anla\u0131na geldi\u011fini hat\u0131rdan \u00e7\u0131karmamal\u0131, e\u015finin kaybetemsinden \u00f6zel bir haz duyan kimse, her\u015feyden \u00f6nce duygular\u0131n\u0131n sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olu\u0131p olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 tekrar g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irmelidir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Ortada bir problem varsa, e\u015fler birbirlerini de\u011fil problemi hedef almal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Bu durumda her iki taraf da birbirleri \u00fczerinde de\u011fil problem \u00fczerinde yo\u011funla\u015f\u0131r e \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretmenin gereklili\u011fine inan\u0131rlar. Her \u00e7\u0131kan problemde, problemi tart\u0131\u015fmak yerine e\u015fler birbirlerinin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, birbirlerinin karakterlerini, birbirlerinin huy ve zevklerini tart\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flarsa, problem \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f olmaz; aksine \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fc\u011fe mahkum edilmi\u015f olur ve \u00fcst\u00fcne \u00fcstl\u00fck yeni problemler \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Baz\u0131 kimseler problemi \u00e7\u00f6zmeyi de\u011fil tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 kazan\u0131p hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmay\u0131 hedeflerler. E\u015fler aras\u0131nda b\u00f6yle bir ama\u00e7la yap\u0131lan tart\u0131\u015fma, <a href=\"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/iletisim\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">ileti\u015fim<\/a>in kopmas\u0131na kadar varabilecek k\u00f6t\u00fc sonu\u00e7lar do\u011frmaya adayd\u0131r.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Dikensiz g\u00fcl istemeyizniz, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc olmaz. Ve g\u00fcl\u00fc seven, elbette dikenine katlanmal\u0131d\u0131r. E\u011fer g\u00fcl\u00fcn\u00fc seviorsan\u0131z e sevginiz kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z sevgiyse, sevdi\u011finizin dikenine katlanmaktan da ayr\u0131ca zevk al\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Fakat kimse sizden dikenini de sevmenini isteyemez. Haddizat\u0131nda, sevdi\u011finiz g\u00fcl\u00fcn dikenine katlanmaktan haz almak sevginin zirvesi, dikenin de sevmek, sevginin tutkuya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp g\u00f6ren g\u00f6z\u00fc k\u00f6r etmesidir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Kar\u0131-Koca ili\u015fkisi yak\u0131n ili\u015fki t\u00fcrlerindenin ba\u015f\u0131nda gelir. Yak\u0131n ve s\u00fcrekli ili\u015fkilerde mutlaka problemler, p\u00fcr\u00fczler ve anla\u015fmazl\u0131klar \u00e7\u0131kar. Aslolan problemsiz, p\u00fcr\u00fczs\u00fcz, olmak de\u011fil, \u00e7\u0131kan problemleri k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 omadan tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 bilmektir. Tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmaya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmemenin yolu \u00f6fkenizi dindirmeden harekete ge\u00e7memektir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>E\u015fler birbirlerini s\u00fcrekli ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla k\u0131yaslamamal\u0131d\u0131rlar. \u00d6zellikle erkkler han\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 anneliyle, kad\u0131nlar da kocalar\u0131n\u0131 babalar\u0131yla k\u0131yaslamaktan ka\u00e7\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Evlilik sadece iki ki\u015finin ili\u015fkisi de\u011fil, iki ayr\u0131 ailenin iki ayr\u0131 \u00e7evrenin birbirileriyle ili\u015flki kurmas\u0131d\u0131r. Aileleri ve \u00e7evrelerini birbirlerine yakla\u015ft\u0131rma rol\u00fc evli \u00e7iftlere d\u00fc\u015fmektedir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Ge\u00e7imsiz kad\u0131n yoktur, ancak kad\u0131n\u0131 anlayabilen ve idare edebilen bir erkek gereklidir. Ge\u00e7imsiz erkek yoktur, ancak erke\u011fi anlayabilen ve idare edebilen bir kad\u0131n gereklidir. D\u00fcnyan\u0131n en az\u0131l\u0131 katillerinin, dikdat\u00f6rlerinin ve canilerinin dahi uyumlu bir aile kurabildiklerinin \u00f6rneklerine rastl\u0131yoruz. Bunun s\u0131rr\u0131, bu t\u00fcr canileri dahi idare edebilen kad\u0131nlar\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda aranmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Tart\u0131\u015fma iki \u00e7e\u015fittir. Yap\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fma, y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fma. Yap\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fma, ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir \u015feyi e\u015fimize belli etmek ve bunu yaparken \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fc davranmakt\u0131r. Bunu yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda kendi kendimize yabanc\u0131lar\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. E\u015flerin ho\u015flanmd\u0131klar\u0131halde ho\u015flanm\u0131\u015f gibi, sevmedikleri halde sevmemi\u015f gibi ya da sevdikleri halde sevmiyormu\u015f gibi, be\u011fendikleri halde be\u011fenmiyormu\u015f gibi davran\u0131malar\u0131 ki\u015fiyi kendisine kar\u015f\u0131 yabanc\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Kendisine kar\u015f\u0131 yabanc\u0131la\u015fma gittik\u00e7e di\u011ferine kar\u015f\u0131 yabanc\u0131la\u015fmay\u0131 da beraberinde getirir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u015eahsiyeti \u00f6ld\u00fcrmeyiniz. E\u015flerin yapabilece\u011fi en b\u00fcy\u00fck hata, birbirlerinin \u015fahsiyetini hedef almalar\u0131d\u0131r. Bu ki\u015fiinin bindi\u011fi dal\u0131 kesmesidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, en y\u00fcksek insani ili\u015fki, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc \u015fahsiyetleri olan iki insan aras\u0131nda kurulur. \u015eahsiyeti zay\u0131f\u00a0 &#8220;yar\u0131m insan&#8221; larla, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve tam bir ili\u015fki kurmak zordur. \u0130\u015fte bu nedenle, kar\u0131-koa birbirlerinin \u015fahsiyetini s\u00fcrekli takvieye etmeli, her iki taraf da muhatab\u0131n\u0131 kendine g\u00fcven duygusunu art\u0131racak \u015fekilde davranmal\u0131d\u0131r. E\u015flerden birinin kendine g\u00fcvenmeyen, \u015fahsiyeti yaral\u0131, ki\u015fili\u011fi tart\u0131\u015f\u0131lan biri olmas\u0131, di\u011ferinin iftihar\u0131 de\u011fil, belki intihar\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n yap\u0131c\u0131 olabilmesinin temeli iki \u015fart\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 iyi niyet ve g\u00fcvendir. Bu iki \u015fart varsa o tart\u0131\u015fma yap\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fma olma \u015fans\u0131na sahiptir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 aile, i\u00e7erisinde hi\u00e7 bir tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n ya\u015fanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 aile de\u011fildir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n birlikte ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir yerde tart\u0131\u015fma ve hatta kimi zaman \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazd\u0131r. \u00d6zellikle bu birliktelik &#8220;yak\u0131n&#8221; ve &#8220;uzun s\u00fcreli&#8221; ise, tart\u0131\u015fma daha da normal hale gelir. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 aile tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmlemeyi bilen, anla\u015fmazl\u0131klar\u0131 hall-\u00fc fasl edecek kurallar\u0131 olan ve aile bireylerinin, ad\u0131 konmu\u015f ya da konbmam\u0131\u015f olan bu kurallar\u0131 uydu\u011fu ailedir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n  <div class=\"related-post grid\">\r\n      <div class=\"post-list \">\r\n\r\n            <div class=\"item\">\r\n          \r\n  <a class=\"title post_title\"  title=\"\u0130yi Bir Aile Nas\u0131l Olur?\" href=\"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/iyi-bir-aile-nasil-olur\/\">\r\n        \u0130yi Bir Aile Nas\u0131l Olur?  <\/a>\r\n\r\n        <\/div>\r\n              <div class=\"item\">\r\n          \r\n  <a class=\"title post_title\"  title=\"Aile \u0130\u00e7inde Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u0130leti\u015fimin P\u00fcf Noktalar\" href=\"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/aile-icinde-saglikli-iletisimin-puf-noktalar\/\">\r\n        Aile \u0130\u00e7inde Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u0130leti\u015fimin P\u00fcf Noktalar  <\/a>\r\n\r\n        <\/div>\r\n              <div class=\"item\">\r\n          \r\n  <a class=\"title post_title\"  title=\"Aile \u0130\u00e7i Tart\u0131\u015fma Ve \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm Y\u00f6ntemleri\" href=\"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/aile-ici-tartisma-ve-cozum-yontemleri\/\">\r\n        Aile \u0130\u00e7i Tart\u0131\u015fma Ve \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm Y\u00f6ntemleri  <\/a>\r\n\r\n        <\/div>\r\n              <div class=\"item\">\r\n          \r\n  <a class=\"title post_title\"  title=\"Ergenlik\" href=\"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/ergenlik\/\">\r\n        Ergenlik  <\/a>\r\n\r\n        <\/div>\r\n      \r\n  <\/div>\r\n\r\n  <script>\r\n      <\/script>\r\n  <style>\r\n    .related-post {}\r\n\r\n    .related-post .post-list {\r\n      text-align: left;\r\n          }\r\n\r\n    .related-post .post-list .item {\r\n      margin: 10px;\r\n      padding: 0px;\r\n          }\r\n\r\n    .related-post .headline {\r\n      font-size: 18px !important;\r\n      color: #0b244c !important;\r\n          }\r\n\r\n    .related-post .post-list .item .post_title {\r\n      font-size: 16px;\r\n      color: #080f35;\r\n      margin: 10px 0px;\r\n      padding: 0px;\r\n      display: block;\r\n      text-decoration: none;\r\n          }\r\n\r\n    .related-post .post-list .item .post_thumb {\r\n      max-height: 220px;\r\n      margin: 10px 0px;\r\n      padding: 0px;\r\n      display: block;\r\n          }\r\n\r\n    .related-post .post-list .item .post_excerpt {\r\n      font-size: 13px;\r\n      color: #050b21;\r\n      margin: 10px 0px;\r\n      padding: 0px;\r\n      display: block;\r\n      text-decoration: none;\r\n          }\r\n\r\n    @media only screen and (min-width: 1024px) {\r\n      .related-post .post-list .item {\r\n        width: 45%;\r\n      }\r\n    }\r\n\r\n    @media only screen and (min-width: 768px) and (max-width: 1023px) {\r\n      .related-post .post-list .item {\r\n        width: 90%;\r\n      }\r\n    }\r\n\r\n    @media only screen and (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 767px) {\r\n      .related-post .post-list .item {\r\n        width: 90%;\r\n      }\r\n    }\r\n\r\n      <\/style>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Modernitenin sald\u0131r\u0131s\u0131na maruz kalan en \u00f6nemli iki mevzu bireylerde y\u00fcrek, toplumlarda ailedir. \u0130nsan i\u00e7in y\u00fcrek ne ise toplum i\u00e7in de aile odur. 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E\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki tart\u0131\u015fmada, her hangi bir taraf\u0131n hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131mas\u0131ndan iki taraf\u0131nda uzla\u015fmas\u0131 daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan daha [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7686,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[1977,4617],"class_list":["post-21175","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aile","tag-aile","tag-tartisma"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21175","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21175"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21175\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":51739,"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21175\/revisions\/51739"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21175"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21175"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buradasin.com.tr\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21175"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}